Meshkujt dhe seksi

[Kryeplaku]

Sipas nje thashethemi kur nje cift ben marredhenje dhe femra arrin ne orgazem atehere kenaqesia e saj eshte pothuajse 10-fish me e forte se ajo e mashkullit. Sidoqofte e verteta eshte se ne nje perqindje te madhe te rasteve nga nje marredhenje intime femra del me e pakenaqur. Faktori kryesor i ketij fenomeni duket se eshte eksitimi i shpejt nga ana e mashkullit, pa perjashtuar sigurisht edhe moskujdesine e shume meshkujve ndaj deshirave te partnereve. Kjo gje shume here shkakton probleme ne cift ngase femra fillon ankesat kurse mashkulli shume here pa te drejte ndjehet sikur preket burreria e tij dhe keshtu e tejkalon muhabetin dhe si pasoje problemi nuk zgjidhet. Po sa mbarevajtje mund te ket nje dashuri midis nje cifti nese nuk ekziston nje seskualitet i shendetshem dhe i pasur? Aq me keq sa e barabarte mund te jet kjo lidhje kur nga marredhenjet seksuale meshkujt nuk arrijne te plotesojne deshirat dhe kenqesite e partnereve?

Keshtu meqenese problemi mund te quhet vecse serioz, aq me teper per shoqerira si ajo shqiptare ku edukata seksuale gjendet ne faza fillestare besoj se eshte ide e mire qe meshkujt e Forumit te ndajne dijet dhe pervojat e tyre duke u munduar keshtu te behen same te perkryer gjate marredhenjeve. Sigurisht pa qene e nevojshme qe te kalojme ne ekstreme te cilat mund ti prishin imazhin kesaj teme.



Si ti kenaqim femrat?
Meshkujt qe ne moshe te vogel ndjejne nje fare problematizimi ne lidhje me organin e tyre seksual. Femija ne fillim e shikon penisin si loder dhe me kalimin e kohes duke ardhur ne kontakt me meshkuj te tjere fillon njefare konkurence mbi organin seksual. Keshtu akoma edhe kur rritet mashkullit i behet psikoze se aftesia e tij ne seks varet nga madheshtia e penisit te tij. Keshtu ekziston edhe nje numer i madh meshkujsh qe frikesohet se nuk mund te jet partner i mire perderisa organi i tij eshte i manget -me mendjen e mashkullit- ne distanca. Nderkohe qe realiteti eshte disi larg. Se pari aftesia e vet organit nuk varet vetem nga gjatesia, varet edhe nga trashesia, edhe nga ngurtesia, forma dhe mbase edhe pamja. Se dyti aftesia e mashkullit ne seks nuk varet vetem nga aftesia e organit te tij, varet edhe nga sjellja e mashkullit, klima qe krijon per femren, aftesia e tij te plotesoje deshirat e partneres. Dhe se treti nga rezistenca e mashkullit gjate marredhenjeve seksuale.

Saper aspektin e dyte rendesi ka qe nje mashkull ta shpjere nje femer per te kryer marredhenje ne nje vend ku ajo te ndjehet sa me mire dhe rehatshem. Megjithate nuk eshte e thene qe seksi eshte i mire per nje femer vetem kur kryhet ne nje krevat - cdo femer, si cdo mashkull, mund te ket preferencat e veta. Por per mendimin tim rendesi teper te madhe kane edhe lojrat seksuale -te cilat per shkaqe praktike, ngase nuk dua qe te mbyllin moderatoret temen, nuk po i analizoj. Sidoqofte kam mendimin se lojrat seksuale duhet te kene me teper ne epiqender femren, ngase mashkulli e ka me te lehte eksitimin. Sidoqofte cdo cift ka preferencat e veta.

Saper rezistencen e mashkullit degjohet kohet e fundit se kane dalur nje ser ilacesh, biles behen edhe nderhyrje kirurgjikale te cilat ngrijne aftesine dhe rezistencen e mashkullit ne seks. Personalisht nuk do ia propozoja asnjerit keto lloj metodash qe do i quaja mesjetare gjithashtu nuk besoj se do mundeshin ti garantojne keta doktoret meshkujve se kenaqesia mbetet e njejte ose se keto metoda nuk mund te shkaktojne probleme te tjera. Aftesia e njeriut ne lidhje me seksin besoj se lidhet me psikologjine e tij. Keshtu fillimisht ajo qe ka rendesi eshte qe mashkulli ti shmanget frikave te tija seksuale kur kerkon rezistencen kurse ne rastin qe atij i eshte larguar deshira per seks atehere shkak kryesor jane streset e perditshmerise. Keshtu ne nje rast te tille duhet qe te qetesojme trurin tone dhe te kerkojme ndihmen e partnereve te cilat duhet te behen terheqese, te embela dhe eksituese -personalisht besoj se me njecik zgjuaresi femra nuk e ka te veshtire te behet eksituese. Tani, ne lidhje me rezistencen pervec psikologjise se mire ekzistojne edhe nje fare metodash te tjera te pervojtura. Pervojtarisht besoj se njecik duhan ose alkol para marredhenjes e ndihmon shume mashkullin per te shtyer eksitmin gjate marredhenjes. Te shenoj ketu se nderkohe qe alkoli dhe duhani sipas seksologeve e ndihmojne mashkullin momentalisht ne seks nga ana tjeter konsumimi i tyre kronik i shkakton atij probleme shendetesore por edhe i vret atij aftesine sekuale sidhe i demton spermen. Prandaj nese i perdorni si mjet ndihmues, perdorini me takt. Ne lidhje me ata meshkujt qe zgjedhin masturbimin para marredhenjes si mjet per te rezistuar gjate marredhenjes, besoj se nuk eshte aspak zgjidhje e mire (penisi humb ngurtesine e pare por edhe mashkulli kenqesine e pare).


Kaq kisha une... nese ja futa kot jeni te lutur te me ndreqni. Gjithashtu do lexoj me interes pergjigjet, nese ekzistojne!


* Nese vijojne shkrime te pahijshme jane te lutur moderatoret qe ti fikin por kurresesi mos te mbyllin ose fikin temen. Besoj se dikujt mund t'i jet me e dobishme se shume tema te tjera te ketij Forumi!

Faleminderit

[[xeni]]

ketu ku jam eshte nje gazete qe nja 4 faqe ja kushton ketyne problemeve dhe nje plakush dhe nje plakushe mundohen t'u japin pergjigje pyetjeve shume idiote qe bejne rinia... me than te drejten, me duket se, perveç rasteve ku injoranca eshte shume e theksume, problemet me teper vijne nga menyra e jeteses sesa nga mungesa e talentit...

jete e stresume... cigare... alkol... paqendrueshmeri ne lidhje dhe ndrrimi i partnereve... eksperiencat e para problematike... e sa e sa te tjera...

Keshtu akoma edhe kur rritet mashkullit i behet psikoze se aftesia e tij ne seks varet nga madheshtia e penisit te tij.

me kte zgjedhjen e fjales me ke shkri, kryeplak

[Albi]

Arsyeja me te medhe ne aritjen e nji sexsi te bukure eshte vetem gjendja psikologjike e ciftit ne qofte se ne momentin qe kerkon te besh mardhenie sexsuale njeriu duhet te jet fare i qet qe te arij te kenaqet ,Po ne qofte se e ka mendjen ke puna ke qeraja apo ke leket normal qe se arin dot femren

[mario_kingu]

ore edhe sex do na mesoni mir ata qe jan rit ne vitete e xhaxhi laver po edhe neve qe jemi rit me sali enver jemi gati kurdohere PPpp

sa per lojra ne krevat shdo cift i bejn po jo vetem ne krevat se ka gushin makin garash ku ndiohesh me mir kapish :P

[Alket123]

Sidoqofte e verteta eshte se ne nje perqindje te madhe te rasteve nga nje marredhenje intime femra del me e pakenaqur.

E di une jam nje nga ata qe e kam kuptuar asnjehere e perseris asnjehere nuk kam mundur te kenaq femren ne seks!!!!!!

Prandaj po pyes lejohet ne moshe te re te perdor Viagra? Sa mund te zgjase nje mashkull ne moshe te re me Viagra ne seks? 3 ore 4 ore 6 ore? Sa?

[DeuS]

Ty faleminderit per sinqeritetin qe tregon dhe te sigurojme qe e kemi kuptuar me kohe kete qe deklarove me lart, qe nga postimet e meparshme!

Une te keshilloj te provosh 'harder' perpara se ta presesh fare...gjer ne rreze!

Pastaj, nese te ka shkuar mendja te blesh Viagra, do te te keshilloja te mos nxitoheshe duke shpenzuar para kot vetem e vetem per ta kenaqur femren...mjafto te na besh nje ze shoqnise dhe te garantoj qe ta kthejme mbrapsh aq te kenaqur, saqe kembet ti coje si ato kompasat e kinkalerive te viteve '80 dhe vrymen ta mbaje me kompreso me uje te ftohte per nja 1 jave!

All this free of charge...mjafto te kete nje pale gjokse, nje ose disa vrima qe pranojne zmadhime ne diameter dhe te mos kete negro-smell!

Tek e fundit...shoqnia ne dite te veshtire te nevojitet mer cun!

Per Kryeplakun kisha nje pietje:

Shyqyr Zotit (apo genit te plakut) nuk kena pas ankesa per peshen dhe performance-n e 'boksierit' por si t'ja bej hallit qe kohet e fundit kam vene re qe njera testikule (**** - i thone ne shqip kam pershtypjen) me duket se varet pak me poshte se tjetra mer jahu? Ka ndonje menyre sesi ti ballancoj, apo thjeshte ta terheq edhe tjetren pak me poshte? Ka te beje graviteti ne kete rast, apo thjeshte ushtrohet ligji i relativitetit?

Pres pergjigje me ankth te madh per qesen e majte spermatologjike!

[Kryeplaku]

Per Kryeplakun kisha nje pietje:

Shyqyr Zotit (apo genit te plakut) nuk kena pas ankesa per peshen dhe performance-n e 'boksierit' por si t'ja bej hallit qe kohet e fundit kam vene re qe njera testikule (**** - i thone ne shqip kam pershtypjen) me duket se varet pak me poshte se tjetra mer jahu? Ka ndonje menyre sesi ti ballancoj, apo thjeshte ta terheq edhe tjetren pak me poshte? Ka te beje graviteti ne kete rast, apo thjeshte ushtrohet ligji i relativitetit?

Pres pergjigje me ankth te madh per qesen e majte spermatologjike!

Une kam mendimin se masturbohesh shume, saqe i ke luajtur telat... Sidoqofte mund te jet edhe ndonje fiksim!

[Gunnar]

Une kam mendimin se masturbohesh shume, saqe i ke luajtur telat... Sidoqofte mund te jet edhe ndonje fiksim!

Bashkohem me mendimin tend plotesisht

Meqe jemi ne kete teme po postoj nje material qe me ka ardhur me e-mail. Fatkeqesisht nuk kam kohe ta perkthej keshtu qe po e nis keshtu sic eshte. Ne fakt materiali nuk permban se cfare duhet te beje nje mashkull gjate nje marredheniejeje seksuale po cfare nuk duhet te bej (duke permendur gjera te cilat ne pergjithesi njihen gabim nga meshkujt). Ju sugjeroj ta lexoni jo vetem per "keshillat" me vend por edhe sepse shkrimi karakterizohet nga fraza shume to forta (komike sigurisht).
Gjithashtu do te ishte mire sikur te kishte pjesmarrje edhe nga femrat e forumit ne menyre qe te na konfirmonin disa prej atyre qe jane shkruajtur ne kete shkrim.
Nejse, po e postoj shkrimin duke ju kerkuar edhe njehere falje per pamundesine e perkthimit ne shqip

"40 WAYS MEN FAIL IN BED"
Take notes, all you Casanovas...

1) NOT KISSING FIRST. Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you're paying by the hour and trying to get your money's worth by cutting out nonessentials. A properly passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR. Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there's a difference between being erotic .and blowing as if you're trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it's not passion, it's avoidance.

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST. Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get their hands on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES. Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like they're trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive. They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good. Pretending they're a doggie toy isn't.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES. Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thumb like you're trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY. A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you've ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So, start paying them some attention.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED. Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT. Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS. Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK. Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY. Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid's toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY. Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA. Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe that the vagina is where it's all at. No sooner is your hand down there than you're trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if you're not careful, it can hurt - so don't get carried away. It's best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior of her vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her and see if she likes it.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY. You're attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY. Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it's just undoing a couple of buttons.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST. A man in socks and underpants is the worst. Lose the socks fist.

18) GOING TOO FAST. When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool. She'll soon feel like an assembly-line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly, with clean, straight, regular thrusts.

19) GOING TOO HARD. If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding concentrated into a few seconds.

20) COMING TOO SOON. Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH. It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her interest while you're playing Marathon Man.

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME. You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But, if you really don't know, don't ask.

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY. Don't act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her clitoris.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN. Men persist in doing this until she's eyeball-to- penis, hoping that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this. It's about three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX. Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes it. When she's performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do what's necessary.

26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO. Don't thrust. She'll do all the moving during fellatio. You just lie there. And don't grab her head.

27) TAKING ETTIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES. In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES. Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn't feel quite so much like the captain of a schooner. And let her have a rest.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT. This is how men earn a reputation for not being able to follow directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first. And don't think that being drunk is an excuse.

30) TAKING PICTURES. When a man says, "Can I take a photo of you? "she'll hear the words "to show my buddies." At least let her have custody of them.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH. Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice and feathers are all handy props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINT HERS. There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching contest.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES. If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she's a Romanian gymnast, don't get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE. Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have a prostate. Women don't.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES. It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS. Don't shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It's not a big turn-on.

37) TALKING DIRTY. It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-900 line. If she likes nasty talk, she'll let you know.

38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES. You have to finish the job. Keep on trying until you get it right, and she might even do the same for you.

39) SQUASHING HER. Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too heavily, she will turn blue.

40) THANKING HER. Never thank a woman for having sex with you. Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.


P.S. se kuptoj se pse kjo teme ndodhet ne kete nenforum ?

[PINK]

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT. Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it.


17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST. A man in socks and underpants is the worst. Lose the socks fist.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINT HERS. There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching contest.

40) THANKING HER. Never thank a woman for having sex with you. Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.

LoooooooooooooooooooooL , Keto pikat me lart ......... DD

[Gunnar]

LoooooooooooooooooooooL , Keto pikat me lart ......... DD

Me behet qejfi qe funksionoi kjo puna e "feedbackut" kaq shpejt.
P.sh. tani e morrem vesh se cfare nuk i pelqeka Pinkut gjate sexit )

Miqesisht (no hard feelings eeee)

Inkurajuar nga kurajoja e Pink po them edhe une gabimin me tipik timin nga keta mesiper

"35) GIVING LOVE BITES. It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end."

Ketij tundimi si shpetoj dot...Eh kam ndonje damar vampiri sic duket

P.S. sic e thashe edhe ne postin e meparshem pjesmarrje e femrave do ta bente kete teme me te vertete konstruktive (te dobishme per ne dmth)