Thuaji JO Shën Valentinit

[Gimi3]

Shen Valentini : Mitologji Apo Bizness?!
Mitologjia ka ndihmuar qe biznesi te zhvillohet ne kete aspekt , pasice ka njerez qe ne ate dite blejne dhurata me te madhe , nje gje s'me duket e arsyeshme ... perse ta perkufizojme ate dite me ca dhurata kur eshte puna ti reflektosh dashurine dikujt?!
Une shume shkurt do ta perkufizoja dashurine si dhe te dashuruarit :
Te duash dike s'mjafton 14-15 shkurti !
1 vit i ka 365 dit/net s'do beja dallim kur eshte puna t'i japesh dashuri dikujt qe e don me shume se veten

[Lioness]

Vetem Zan Caushi dinte si menaxhohej vlora.

Lol thua se e kuptojne kete shprehjen tende siperpostuesit.Nejse une them tia nderrojme emrin Shen valentinit tia vejme shen Leonessa.Nese katoliket e kane gjini mashkullore ta kene dhe ortodokset po me nje vecanti nga katoliket ne gjinine femerore.

Ne fakt, ate beni ju, qani hallin e festave (bile ca "shqiptare" si puna juaj po benit thirrje per bojkotim te Vitit te Ri), hidheni ne mbrojtje te Arabise Saudite, se u pikon ne zemer, ama kur vjen puna per ceshtje/probleme te atdheut, flisni persembrapthi. Ehhhh, thuaj kur u ndane keto na rane. Aq u ra ne pjese aq beni.

[goldian]

NJERI PO TE DIJ SHEN VALENTIN E BEN PERDIT ME TE DASHURIN APO TE DASHUREN E TIJ .....

ehhhhhhh po kur ske te dashur si tja besh

[ibnfadl]

Love Sickness

Call To Islam Research
Praise be to Allaah. Islam came to close the doors that lead to evil and sin, and
is keen to block all the means that may lead to corruption of hearts and minds.
Excessive love and infatuation between the sexes are among the worst of
problems.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allaah have
mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa
(10/129):
“Love is a psychological sickness, and if it grows
strong it affects the body, and becomes a
physical sickness, either as diseases of the brain,
which are said to be diseases caused by waswaas
(whispers of the devil), or diseases of the body
such as weakness, emaciation and so on.”
And he (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/132):
“Loving a non-mahram woman leads to many negative consequences, the full
extent of which is known only to the Lord of people. It is a sickness that affects
the religious commitment of the sufferer, then it may also affect his mind and
body.”
It is sufficient to note that one of the effects of excessive love of a member of the
opposite sex is enslavement of the heart which is held captive to the loved one.


So love is a door that leads to humiliation and servility. That is sufficient to put
one off this sickness.
Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa
(10/185):
“If a man is in love with a woman, even if she is permissible for him, his heart
remains enslaved to her, and she can control him as she wishes, even though
outwardly he appears to be her master, because he is her husband; but in fact he
is her prisoner and slave, especially if she is aware of his need and love for her.
In that case, she will control him like a harsh and oppressive master controls his
abject slave who cannot free himself from him. Rather he is worse off than that,
because enslavement of the heart is worse than enslavement of the body.”
Attachment to the opposite sex will not happen to a heart that is filled with love
of Allaah; it only affects a heart that is empty and weak, so it is able to gain
control of it, then when it becomes strong and powerful it is able to defeat the
love of Allaah and lead the person into shirk. Hence it is said: Love is the action
of an empty heart.
If the heart is devoid of the love and remembrance of the Most Merciful, and is a
stranger to speaking to Him, it will be filled with love of women, images and
listening to music.

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Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’
al-Fataawa (10/135):
“If the heart loves Allaah alone and is sincerely devoted to Him, it will not even
think of loving anyone else in the first place, let alone falling in love. When a
heart falls in love, that is due to the lack of love for Allaah alone. Hence, because
Yoosuf loved Allaah and was sincerely devoted to Him, he did not fall into the ****
of love, rather Allaah says:
“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual
intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves”
[Yoosuf (12):24]
As for the wife of al-‘Azeez, she was a mushrik as were her people, hence she fell
into this ****.”
The Muslim must save himself from this fate and not fall short in guarding against
it and ridding himself of it. If he falls short in that regard and follows the path of
love, by continuing to steal haraam glances or listening to haraam things, and
being careless in the way he speaks to the opposite sex, etc, then he is affected
by love as a result, then he is sinning and will be subject to punishment for his
actions.
How many people have been careless at the beginning of this problem, and
thought that they were able to rid themselves of it whenever they wanted, or that
they could stop at a certain limit and not go any further, until the sickness took a
strong hold and no doctor or remedy could help?
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Rawdat al-Muhibbeen
(147):
“Undoubtedly following one glance with another and allowing oneself to keep
thinking about the person is like drinking intoxicants: he is to be blamed for the
cause.”
If a person strives to keep away from the things that lead to this serious sickness,
by lowering his gaze and not looking at haraam things, not listening to haraam
things, and averting the passing thoughts that the shaytaan casts into his mind,
then after that something of the evils of this sickness befalls him because of a
passing glance or a transaction that is basically permissible, and his heart
becomes attached to a woman, there is no sin on him for that inshaa’Allaah,
because Allaah says:
“Allaah burdens not a person beyond his scope” [al-Baqarah (2):286]
Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa
(11/10):
“If that does not result from carelessness or transgression on his part, then there
is no sin on him for what befalls him.”





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Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Rawdat al-Muhibbeen
(147):
“If love occurs for a reason that is not haraam, the person is not to be blamed,
such as one who loved his wife or slave woman, then he separated from her but
the love remained and did not leave him. He is not to be blamed for that.
Similarly if there was a sudden glance then he averted his gaze, but love took
hold of his heart without him meaning it to, he must, however, ward it off and
resist it.”
But he must treat his heart by putting a stop to the effects of this love, and by
filling his heart with love of Allaah and seeking His help in that. He should not
feel too shy to consult intelligent and trustworthy people for advice or consult
some doctors and psychologists, because he may find some remedy with them.
In doing that he must be patient, seek reward, remain chaste and keep quiet,
and Allaah will decree reward for him inshaa’Allaah.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’
al-Fataawa (10/133):
“If he is tested with love but he remains chaste and is patient, then he will be
rewarded for fearing Allaah. It is known from shar’i evidence that if a person
remains chaste and avoids haraam things in looking, word and deeds, and he
keeps quiet about it and does not speak of it, so that there will be haraam talk
about that, whether by complaining to another person or committing evil openly,
or pursuing the beloved one in any way, and he is patient in obeying Allaah and
avoiding sin, despite the pain of love that he feels in his heart, just as one who is
afflicted with a calamity bears the pain of it with patience, then he will be one of
those who fear Allaah and are patient:
“Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by abstaining from sins
and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good deeds), and is patient, then
surely, Allaah makes not the reward of the Muhsinoon (good-doers) to be
lost” [Yoosuf (12):90].”
Shaykh Muhammad al-Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said in As’ilat al-Baab al-Maftooh, question no. 868:
“If it so happens that there is love between a man and a woman, the most
effective means of warding off fitnah (temptation) and immorality is for them to
get married, because his heart will still remain attached to her if he does not
marry her, and that may lead to fitnah.
A man may hear that a woman has a good character, and that she is
knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her; or she may hear that this man is
of good character, knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she wants to
marry him, but the communication between the two is not done in the proper
Islamic manner – this is very serious. In this case it is not permissible for the
man to contact the woman or vice versa, and say that he wants to marry her.
Rather he should tell her guardian that he wants to marry her, or she should tell
her guardian that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with
him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and
‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman gets in
touch with the man directly, this is what leads to fitnah.”



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The Prophet (sall Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) said:
“There is nothing for two who love one another like marriage.”
[as-Saheehah no. 624 and others]
In Kifayat al-Hajjah, (the commentary on Sunan Ibn Majah) as-Sindi said:
“It is, when there is love between two, then that love will not be increased by
anything among the various types of means of drawing nearer, nor will anything
make it last, like the marriage tie. So if they are married with that love, then the
love will increase and become stronger with every day.”


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[Acid_Burn]

o Ibnfadl nga i gjete kto mer ?? Car jan kto budallalliqe ?? Ibn Tejmija edhe ibn Kajjimi ... amon mer se lat nom ... ta quash dashurine ndjenjen me te bukur semundje mendore ... dmth qe te jesh i semure psiqik. E kupton ti tekstin qe ke sjell apo vetem ja ke rras gelldap ?

[DI_ANA]

Nderroje kete se liria dhe vullneti nuk jane virtyte ato jane dhurata.Virtyte jane gjerat te cilat fitohen vete.

Pikerisht se eshte virtyt qe fitohet vete per mua eshte nje virtyt i njerezimit....
Mos bjer ne kundershtim me llafet qe thua vete

[fisniku-student]

HMMMMMMMM E PSE DUHET TI THEM JO????????

sepse...shen valentini dhe pasuesit e tij ..nuk jan veq se nenqmuesit e dashuris...sepse mundohen qe nje gje aq te rendesishme ta simbolizojne vetem me nje dite..kurse realisht ajo perveq qe jetojme me te tere diten nganjeher na hyn e dhe ne endrra...
andaj nuk dashurojne veteme ne shen valentin por tere jeten...

nje keshill per rinin mos i emitoni verberishte kulturat tjera se si thot njje thenje gjermane "qdo emitim qalon..."andaj te mos e nenqmojme dashurin me kesi kontrata shitblerje...."emptio venditio"

[marsela]

Sa thelle i hyjme gjerave ne
Personalisht s`me pelqen aq Shen valentini si feste, per menyren si festohet e vlersohet ktu. Vijne njerzit nga ane e anes te bejne nje xhiro apo te hane nje dreke neTirane per Sh.Valentin..se ku qendron llogjika e ksaj ose mbarohet mesimi heret te festojn mesuesit dhe o burra dhe kalamqt duan te shkojn ne ndonje vend piknik se do festojn..lol
Per mua eshte nje dite ne kalendar qe perderisa simbolizon nje ndjenje te vyer, ske perse te mos e perjetosh ndryshe nga ditet e tjera me njeriun e zemres.
S~me duken te drejta nuancat fetare qe i jepen festes..

[interesant]

Shen Valentini : Mitologji Apo Bizness?!
Mitologjia ka ndihmuar qe biznesi te zhvillohet ne kete aspekt , pasice ka njerez qe ne ate dite blejne dhurata me te madhe , nje gje s'me duket e arsyeshme ... perse ta perkufizojme ate dite me ca dhurata kur eshte puna ti reflektosh dashurine dikujt?!
Une shume shkurt do ta perkufizoja dashurine si dhe te dashuruarit :
Te duash dike s'mjafton 14-15 shkurti !
1 vit i ka 365 dit/net s'do beja dallim kur eshte puna t'i japesh dashuri dikujt qe e don me shume se veten

Bukur kjo.


Dashuria e vertete eshte e tera jete,
per nje dit vaj medet,
do shkaterrohej dunjaja krejt.....
kerko ate qe eshte e vertete........

Une nje keshille kam: "Si shqipetare qe jemi ti leme keto data te pa vlera,dhe ti neshtrohemi llogjikes se shendoshe dhe te paster ....."

Pse pikerisht nje date,me nje emer "enigme" qe shume nuk ja kane haberin...

Mua kjo me duket si nje ideologji me qellime te helmuara per shoqerine....
Ta kufizojne dashurine si dhe dhuratat vetem nje dite.... dhe pastaj ......

[Lioness]

o Ibnfadl nga i gjete kto mer ?? Car jan kto budallalliqe ?? Ibn Tejmija edhe ibn Kajjimi ... amon mer se lat nom ... ta quash dashurine ndjenjen me te bukur semundje mendore ... dmth qe te jesh i semure psiqik. E kupton ti tekstin qe ke sjell apo vetem ja ke rras gelldap ?

Me vjen mire qe komentove, per vete e lexova dhe nenqesha, por prisja te dilte ndonje me kompetence qe te fliste ndaj s'u ndieva.

Mir ne na ka len me pasoja arabija saudite po ty mos te ka len gje me pasoja Zan caushi Beu vlores qe rri e merresh me ceshtjen e Darfurit?

Per sqarim, qe te mos harxhosh te njejten batute nje, dy, plus infinit here, nuk isha ne Vlore/Shqiperi gjate asaj periudhe te shemtuar.

Sa per interesat/njohurite e mia, po ju kujtoj se ne librin tuaj fetar, Kurani, dy fjalet e permendura me shume nga cdo fjale tjeter jane Zoti (Allahu) dhe "dituria." Nqs kam dituri, njohuri, shkollim/interes per ceshtje te ndryshme, dhe ty te duket anormale, mua s'me behet vone, por bie ndesh me besimin tend.

Hajt selam djale.